A reflection on confession, silence, and the cost of truth
by L. K. Lambert

I once confessed to a prayer group
that I was addicted to pornography.
It wasn’t a performance.
It wasn’t a spectacle.
It was a trembling offering of truth—
spoken aloud
in a room where I knew,
with quiet certainty,
that I was not the only one struggling.

Half the men in that room
carried the same affliction.
I knew it.
They knew it.
But I was the only one
who could say it aloud.

And from that moment on,
they treated me like a freak. 
Not because I was different—
but because I was honest.
Because I broke the silence
they were hiding behind.
Because I held up a mirror
they couldn’t bear to look into.

They never asked how I was doing.
They didn’t walk with me.
They didn’t say,
“Me too.”

They flinched.
They distanced.
They judged.

Because they refused to deal
with that problem 
with courage and honesty,
I was forced to deal with it
on my own.

Which I did.

Today, after much tearful praying,
I can honestly say
that the LORD has delivered
me from this affliction.
I’m not yet fully healed —

I don’t know that I ever will be.
But this I know:
I am no longer tempted
to visit pornographic websites.
That desire has lost its grip.
Grace has taken its place.

I do not regret speaking.
I regret only
that they couldn’t receive it.

Confession is not weakness.
It is strength.
It is the beginning of healing.
And if a room
cannot hold your truth,
then it is not a sanctuary—
it is a stage.

I still believe in grace.
I still believe in fellowship.
But I also believe in silence that protects,
and truth that waits for the right ears.

I was not a freak.
I was a witness.
And I will not let their fear
rewrite my testimony.

If you are also struggling with this affliction—one that plagues at least half of Christian men—then I encourage you to email me. I not only know your struggle, I still live with it. If you cannot share this with the brothers in your church, then I offer you my compassionate ear.  l_k_lambert2@proton.me

 

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